Disa muaj m\u00eb par\u00eb, nd\u00ebrsa p\u00ebrpiqesha t\u00eb gjeja koh\u00eb n\u00eb dit\u00ebt e mia t\u00eb ngarkuara, p\u00ebr t\u00eb shkruar, nj\u00eb koleg m\u00eb sugjeroi t\u00eb lexoja nj\u00eb lib\u00ebr p\u00ebr ritualet e p\u00ebrditshme t\u00eb artist\u00ebve t\u00eb m\u00ebdhenj. Por n\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00eb jepte frym\u00ebzimin p\u00ebr t\u00eb cilin shpresoja, m\u00eb goditi m\u00eb shum\u00eb: fliste p\u00ebr gjenit\u00eb krijuese – kryesisht burrat – t\u00eb cil\u00ebt nuk kishin orare dhe rutina, por ‘ndihmoheshin’ nga grat\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Grat\u00eb e tyre i mbronin nga nd\u00ebrprerjet; zonja e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb u sillnin m\u00ebngjes dhe kafe n\u00eb or\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshme; ato i mbanin f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e tyre jasht\u00eb pun\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre.<\/p>\n
Martha Freud jo vet\u00ebm i nxirrte rrobat e Sigmund \u00e7do m\u00ebngjes, ajo madje vendoste past\u00ebn e dh\u00ebmb\u00ebve n\u00eb fur\u00e7\u00ebn e dh\u00ebmb\u00ebve. Zonja e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb s\u00eb Marcel Proust, Celeste, jo vet\u00ebm q\u00eb i sillte kafen e tij t\u00eb p\u00ebrditshme, kruasant, gazetat dhe post\u00ebn n\u00eb nj\u00eb tabaka argjendi, por ishte gjithmon\u00eb aty sa her\u00eb q\u00eb d\u00ebshironte t\u00eb bisedonte, ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb me or\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00ebra. Disa gra p\u00ebrmenden vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr ato q\u00eb u p\u00ebrpoq\u00ebn, si gruaja e Karl Marx – pa em\u00ebr n\u00eb lib\u00ebr – e cila jetonte n\u00eb siklet me tre nga gjasht\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e mbijetuar, nd\u00ebrsa ai i kaloi dit\u00ebt e tij duke shkruar n\u00eb Muzeun Britanik.<\/p>\n
Gustav Mahler u martua me nj\u00eb kompozitore t\u00eb re premtues, t\u00eb quajtur Alma, pastaj e ndaloi at\u00eb t\u00eb kompozonte, duke th\u00ebn\u00eb se mund t\u00eb kishte vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb n\u00eb familje. Pas notit t\u00eb tij t\u00eb mesdit\u00ebs, ai do t\u00eb fishk\u00ebllente q\u00eb Alma t’i bashkohej atij n\u00eb sh\u00ebtitje t\u00eb gjata, t\u00eb heshtura, nd\u00ebrsa kompozonte n\u00eb kok\u00eb. Ajo do t\u00eb ulet p\u00ebr or\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00ebra n\u00eb nj\u00eb deg\u00eb ose n\u00eb bar, duke mos guxuar ta shqet\u00ebsoj\u00eb. “Ka nj\u00eb luft\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb q\u00eb po ndodh n\u00eb mua!”, Shkroi Alma n\u00eb ditarin e saj. “Un\u00eb jam zhytur n\u00eb nivelin e nj\u00eb sht\u00ebpie sht\u00ebpie! ”<\/p>\n
N\u00eb dallim nga artist\u00ebt meshkuj, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt l\u00ebviznin n\u00ebp\u00ebr jet\u00eb sikur koha p\u00ebr veten e tyre ishte nj\u00eb e drejta e lindjes; dit\u00ebt dhe trajektoret e jet\u00ebs s\u00eb nj\u00eb grushti artist\u00ebsh femra t\u00eb paraqitura n\u00eb lib\u00ebr, shpesh kufizoheshin nga pritjet dhe detyrat e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb. George Sand gjithmon\u00eb punonte nat\u00ebn von\u00eb, nj\u00eb praktik\u00eb q\u00eb filloi kur ishte adoleshente dhe duhej t\u00eb kujdesej p\u00ebr gjyshen e saj. Fillimi, dita e shkrimit t\u00eb Francine Prose u p\u00ebrcaktua nga largimi dhe kthimi i f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb saj n\u00eb autobusin e shkoll\u00ebs. Alice Munro shkroi n\u00eb “th\u00ebrrimet” e koh\u00ebs q\u00eb mund t\u00eb gjente midis mbajtjes s\u00eb sht\u00ebpis\u00eb dhe f\u00ebmij\u00ebve. Dhe Maya Angelou u largua nga t\u00ebrheqja e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb duke e l\u00ebn\u00eb at\u00eb krejt, duke kontrolluar veten n\u00eb nj\u00eb dhom\u00eb hoteli t\u00eb pa zbukuruar p\u00ebr t\u00eb menduar, lexuar dhe shkruar.<\/p>\n
Edhe Anthony Trollope, i cili shkruante n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb famshme 2,000 fjal\u00eb para 8 t\u00eb m\u00ebngjesit \u00e7do m\u00ebngjes, ka t\u00eb ngjar\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebsoj\u00eb zakonin nga n\u00ebna e tij, e cila filloi t\u00eb shkruante n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn 53 vje\u00e7 p\u00ebr t\u00eb mb\u00ebshtetur burrin e saj t\u00eb s\u00ebmur\u00eb dhe gjasht\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e tyre. Ajo u ngrit n\u00eb or\u00ebn 4 t\u00eb m\u00ebngjesit dhe mbaroi pun\u00ebn n\u00eb koh\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb sh\u00ebrbyer m\u00ebngjesin e familjes.<\/p>\n
Un\u00eb mendoj p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb librat, pikturat, muzik\u00ebn, zbulimet shkencore, filozofin\u00eb q\u00eb kam m\u00ebsuar n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb – pothuajse t\u00eb gjitha nga burrat. Dirigjenti Zubin Mehta dikur tha, “Un\u00eb thjesht nuk mendoj se grat\u00eb duhet t\u00eb jen\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb orkest\u00ebr”.<\/p>\n
Po mendoj p\u00ebr nj\u00eb intervist\u00eb q\u00eb Patti Scialfa dha se sa e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb ishte p\u00ebr t\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb shkruante muzik\u00ebn p\u00ebr albumin e saj t\u00eb vet\u00ebm, sepse f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e saj vazhdonin ta nd\u00ebrpresin at\u00eb dhe duke k\u00ebrkuar koh\u00ebn e saj n\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb ata kurr\u00eb s’ia k\u00ebrkonin babait t\u00eb tyre, Bruce Springsteen.<\/p>\n
Dhe kjo m\u00eb godet: nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb se grat\u00eb nuk kan\u00eb pasur talent t\u00eb l\u00ebn\u00eb shenj\u00ebn e tyre n\u00eb bot\u00ebn e ideve dhe artit. Ata kurr\u00eb nuk kan\u00eb pasur koh\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Koha e grave ka qen\u00eb e nd\u00ebrprer\u00eb dhe e fragmentuar p\u00ebrgjat\u00eb historis\u00eb, ritmet e dit\u00ebve t\u00eb tyre t\u00eb p\u00ebrshkruara nga detyrat e pun\u00ebve t\u00eb sht\u00ebpis\u00eb, kujdesit p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt dhe pun\u00ebt familjare – duke mbajtur t\u00eb forta lidhjet familjare dhe komunitare. N\u00ebse ajo q\u00eb duhet p\u00ebr t\u00eb krijuar, jan\u00eb shtrirje t\u00eb gjata t\u00eb koh\u00ebs s\u00eb pand\u00ebrprer\u00eb, t\u00eb p\u00ebrqendruar, koh\u00eb me t\u00eb cil\u00ebn mund t\u00eb zgjidhni t\u00eb b\u00ebni \u00e7far\u00eb d\u00ebshironi, koh\u00ebn q\u00eb mund ta kontrolloni, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka q\u00eb grat\u00eb kurr\u00eb nuk kan\u00eb pasur luksin t\u00eb presin.<\/p>\n
Edhe sot, n\u00eb mbar\u00eb globin, me kaq shum\u00eb gra n\u00eb forc\u00ebn e paguar t\u00eb pun\u00ebs, grat\u00eb ende kalojn\u00eb t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn dy her\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb koh\u00eb sesa burrat, n\u00eb pun\u00eb sht\u00ebpiake dhe kujdesin p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb edhe m\u00eb shum\u00eb. Nj\u00eb studim i 32 familjeve n\u00eb Los Angeles zbuloi se koha e lir\u00eb e pand\u00ebrprer\u00eb e shumic\u00ebs s\u00eb n\u00ebnave zgjati, mesatarisht, jo m\u00eb shum\u00eb se 10 minuta pa nd\u00ebrprerje. Dhe n\u00eb hart\u00ebn e jet\u00ebs s\u00eb p\u00ebrditshme t\u00eb akademik\u00ebve, sociologia Joya Misra dhe koleg\u00ebt e saj zbuluan se dit\u00ebt e pun\u00ebs s\u00eb profesoreve femra ishin shum\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb gjata se koleg\u00ebt e tyre meshkuj, pasi dikur ju faktorizonit t\u00eb gjith\u00eb pun\u00ebn e tyre t\u00eb papaguar n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi.<\/p>\n
Pavar\u00ebsisht, ajo zbuloi se burrat dhe grat\u00eb q\u00eb studiuan kaluan af\u00ebrsisht t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn koh\u00eb n\u00eb pun\u00ebn e tyre t\u00eb paguar. Por koha e grave n\u00eb pun\u00eb gjithashtu u nd\u00ebrpre dhe u cop\u00ebzua, p\u00ebrplasur me m\u00eb shum\u00eb pun\u00eb sh\u00ebrbimi, mentorimi dhe m\u00ebsimdh\u00ebnie. Burrat kaluan m\u00eb shum\u00eb nga dit\u00ebt e tyre t\u00eb pun\u00ebs n\u00eb periudha t\u00eb gjata kohe t\u00eb pand\u00ebrprer\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb menduar, hulumtuar, shkruar, krijuar dhe botuar, p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb emrat e tyre, p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrparuar n\u00eb karrier\u00eb dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb nxjerr\u00eb idet\u00eb e tyre n\u00eb bot\u00eb.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Disa muaj m\u00eb par\u00eb, nd\u00ebrsa p\u00ebrpiqesha t\u00eb gjeja koh\u00eb n\u00eb dit\u00ebt e mia t\u00eb ngarkuara, p\u00ebr t\u00eb shkruar, nj\u00eb koleg m\u00eb sugjeroi t\u00eb lexoja nj\u00eb lib\u00ebr p\u00ebr ritualet e p\u00ebrditshme t\u00eb artist\u00ebve t\u00eb m\u00ebdhenj. Por n\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00eb jepte frym\u00ebzimin p\u00ebr t\u00eb cilin shpresoja, m\u00eb goditi m\u00eb shum\u00eb: fliste p\u00ebr gjenit\u00eb krijuese – kryesisht burrat – t\u00eb cil\u00ebt nuk kishin orare dhe rutina, por ‘ndihmoheshin’ nga grat\u00eb. Grat\u00eb e tyre i mbronin nga nd\u00ebrprerjet; zonja e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb u sillnin m\u00ebngjes dhe kafe n\u00eb or\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshme; ato i mbanin f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e tyre jasht\u00eb pun\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre. Martha Freud jo vet\u00ebm i nxirrte rrobat e Sigmund \u00e7do m\u00ebngjes, ajo madje vendoste past\u00ebn e dh\u00ebmb\u00ebve n\u00eb fur\u00e7\u00ebn e dh\u00ebmb\u00ebve. Zonja e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb s\u00eb Marcel Proust, Celeste, jo vet\u00ebm q\u00eb i sillte kafen e tij t\u00eb p\u00ebrditshme, kruasant, gazetat dhe post\u00ebn n\u00eb nj\u00eb tabaka argjendi, por ishte gjithmon\u00eb aty sa her\u00eb q\u00eb d\u00ebshironte t\u00eb bisedonte, ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb me or\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00ebra. Disa gra p\u00ebrmenden vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr ato q\u00eb u p\u00ebrpoq\u00ebn, si gruaja e Karl Marx – pa em\u00ebr n\u00eb lib\u00ebr – e […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":6,"featured_media":5160,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[77,81],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\n\/Brigid Schulte, The Guardian<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"